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Dear Coach, I divorced the only mother of my girl child about two (2) years ago and our relationship has since been too toxic. We cannot hold a decent conversation, we always fight even though there is no use.

I live with my daughter after the Court of Law granted me the child's custody. I have observed a sense of deep sadness and loneliness from my daughter and longing for our parental love and care.

It is like we have shifted the attention from her and now focusing on our “sorry lives”. I desire that my daughter one day may have a family and believe in the institution of marriage, but unfortunately I do not think she will see life from such a positive stature. I say this because she has never witnessed any joy between my ex- wife and I. My daughter is now six (6) years old and she speaks very heart breaking words that she wants to buy a new mommy. At times, she talks about how our surname is different from her mother’s.

Editor's Comment
Depression is real; let's take care of our mental health

It is not uncommon in this part of the world for parents to actually punish their children when they show signs of depression associating it with issues of indiscipline, and as a result, the poor child will be lashed or given some kind of punishment. We have had many suicide cases in the country and sadly some of the cases included children and young adults. We need to start looking into issues of mental health with the seriousness it...

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