Are you a present father?

Do you make time to know how your children are doing at school? Do you encourage them to be the best at whatever they do? Claire Lerner observes, “Children whose fathers are involved in their daily care, such as feeding, bathing, and playing together, tend to be more confident; and, as they grow older, enjoy stronger social connections with peers.” As a father, isn’t this what you want for your children? No one is going to fill your role. And it would be unwise to expect other men, such as uncles and stepfathers to step into your role while you have irresponsibly gone AWOL.

This column has in the past highlighted the value of the title Father, it observed; “This title does not refer to a man with the ability to copulate and procreate. That would be too low a bar to set for this dignified title! At its basic level, the fatherhood title is bestowed on a man who showers his children with loving attention and would, if necessary, administer tough-love. A provider of shelter, sustenance, clothing, guidance, and a healthy environment conducive to development.”