Relationships- The Fins Of Our Existence :: Mmegi Online

Dear Coach, I am in a relationship that is currently three-years-old. I love my girlfriend so much and I have plans to marry her but unfortunately, she is so difficult to deal with. I am the one who is always understanding and bend in order to sustain peace in the relationship. A couple of months ago, I found out that she was cheating on me with her ex- boyfriend and when I confronted her with the issue she confessed that it was true. I forgave her then we moved on with our lives. Some time ago, I was caught having a meek conversation with my ex- girlfriend and she got so mad that she took all her belongings in my house and promised to never come back to me. Regardless of the many times I have asked for her forgiveness, she seems not to be accessible. She really has built a hard wall around herself and it pains me that she cannot accept my apology. What should I do Coach so that she forgives me and things go back to normal? How do I assist her with dealing with her unforgiving character?Yours, Anonymous

Dear Anonymous, It is not a secret that we are all not so perfect thus we are bound to commit mistakes or rub each other the wrong way. This is one fact we ought to embrace and cherish the most.

Mistakes are not budgeted for and occur unbudgeted. We must therefore open a room in our hearts to cater for moments like that and be mindful that we are not the mistake we commit. Of course, they yield so much pain to the offended but it can be accommodated. The question is, if you hurt another person, don’t you feel that you are worth being forgiven? We all feel that way, now then, if you do, why can’t you reciprocate? Forgiveness ensures continuity and gives a relationship an element of growth.

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