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Attitude Provides the Taste to Life

Dear Coach, I am a divorcee aged 41 years. I was so committed in my marriage and I trusted and believed in my ex- wife so much that I never thought one day will be separated. I did everything I possibly could so that I give her the life she desired and loved her like she was the only woman alive on planet earth. After a good six years, our union came to cease and it broke my heart so much. I am filled with a lot of bitterness and anger because of what she put me through and at times I feel that all women are like that. Whenever I meet someone, I recall every bad experience that my former partner had made me endure and the new relationship would not last. I see my ex on each one of them and I can seem to trust like I once did. I live a very lonely life since I am afraid of falling in love again. I do not want to experience the heart-break just like the latter that got me divorced. How do I get over this excruciating trauma and get to love again? Please help me out Coach. Yours, Anonymous

Dear Anonymous, I know that loving someone and giving your all to the relationship has very detrimental outcomes when you break- up, especially the one you are married to.

It is often said, once bitten, twice shy, you are therefore prone to be in a similar position. That is, you question every opportunity of falling in love that comes your way. Pain alters our perceptions and approach to how we do things.

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