Embrace being messy

It makes us feel good about our own selves. It allows us to assume the goodness of others as a reflection of our own.However, to focus on the goodness of others to the exclusion of other qualities, is dangerous. By doing so we put others into boxes, and by extension ourselves as well. No one is either good or bad, and a lot of things in life are neither black nor white; they are however, different shades of grey.

People are complex beings who constantly shift depending on the urgency of the situation, what they did or did not eat for breakfast, who pissed them off in the morning, their mood, the weather… However, we as a society — because we’re all complicit to varying degrees — have conditioned ourselves to think that the world operates in dichotomies.