Domestic abuse: The case of married women (Part 3) :: Mmegi Online

It would be unconscionable for true men to reduce themselves to silent partners in this grisly corporation that continues to expand its global footprint with a sense of absolute impunity. We will never be able to wipe out every vestige of domestic abuse, but that does not mean we should condone such senselessness. Never underestimate the power of the stone that each one of us can throw at the scourge. From that initial pile of stones will develop a heap that will ultimately transform into an unignorable mountain of protest against this sickness. PAUL BATSHEDI MORE writes

What should be the response strategy of women to acts of abuse? This should start with acknowledgement of the following irrefutable facts. That in the absence of genuine remorse, the undignified behaviour of abusive men will worsen with time. That abusers are not minors. They are majors and therefore fully accountable for their actions.

It wouldn’t only be an absurd leap of logic but also morally reprehensible for abused women to be held responsible for their husbands’ perverted sense of right and wrong. Any outrageous and ill-conceived pursuit of a trajectory of self-reproach as a voluntary or even involuntary response to deliberate misdemeanours of abusers would be irrational. The bottom line? Resist any attempt by your abuser to browbeat you into guilt.

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