Codependency: a hindrance to self-care

Unfortunately, codependents, through their controlling behavior, mould their loved ones into their own dependents, with all the good intentions. Most of the codependents I have interacted with are either first born siblings or especially “bread winners” in their families (this is however, not to suggest that all first born siblings and “bread winners” are codependents).

Over the years, I have come to dislike the word “bread winner” because to me it sounds controlling. It somewhat creates a picture that those on the receiving end have lost the game of winning the bread. I prefer to call people main caretakers rather than bread winners. When people close to me call themselves bread winners I ask them “when will you give others a chance to win the bread?”  This is just my own perception about that word.