Of Emotional Abuse & Narcissistic Personality Disorder (Part 2)

They render assistance so their true merciless self can appear ‘kind and loving’ to the public.  A narcissist has no capacity to assist others without any expectations for rewards in return. They are transactional in nature; true humanitarianism is foreign to their nature.  In any healthy relationship the parties have a reciprocal duty of support towards each other.

However, if a narcissist has lent you a hand in the past or is still doing so they will use the help rendered to you as a weapon to control you whenever you differ with them; they will remind you how ungrateful you are to them though they are a rainbow in your cloud.  They may say this even if the aid they granted you is utterly unrelated to the issue at hand. Narcissists help others so as to get acclaim and be worshipped.  This ilk wants their victims to feel inadequate and unworthy without them.