Of compatibility & love relationships 5

This piece is a worthy continuance of the former. It worthily deliberates on how gender-based incompatibilities may stir up conflict between compatible lovers as espoused in Dr John Gray’s book titled ‘Men are from Mars; Women are from Venus.

In the said book men are referred to as Martians whilst women are referred to as Venusians. In my humble view, the views asserted in Gray’s book hold true for quite a number of males and females, hence they are worth sharing. When a Martian gets upset, he never talks about what is bothering him. He would never burden another Martian with his problem unless his friend’s assistance was necessary to solve the problem. Instead, he becomes very quiet and goes to his private cave to think about his problem, mulling it over to find a solution. When he has found a solution, he feels much better and comes out of his cave. If he can’t find a solution then he does something to forget his problems, like reading the news or playing a game. By disengaging his mind from the problems of his day, gradually he can relax.

If his stress is really great it takes getting involved with something even more challenging, like racing his car, competing in a contest, or climbing a mountain. To feel better, Martians go to their caves to solve problems alone. When a Venusian becomes upset or is stressed by her day, to find relief, she seeks out someone she trusts and then talks in great detail about the problems of her day. When Venusians share feelings of being overwhelmed, they suddenly feel better. This is the Venusian way. To feel better, Venusians get together and openly talk about their problems. On Venus, sharing your problems with another actually is considered a sign of love and trust and not a burden. Venusians are not ashamed of having problems. Their egos are dependent not on looking “competent” but rather on being in loving relationships. They openly share feelings of being overwhelmed, confused, hopeless, and exhausted. A Venusian feels good about herself when she has loving friends with whom to share her feelings and problems. A Martian feels good when he can solve his problems on his own in his cave.

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