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I am hesitant to get married because of the fear of divorce

Dear Gaone ​​​​​​​• Please keep my identity anonymous. My fiancé just proposed and he wants us to get married before the end of the year. I am overjoyed and hesitant at the same time. Overjoyed that I have found a lifetime companion but hesitant about marriage as I fear divorce. So far our relationship is great but it’s possible that marriage may ruin it. In your view what are some of the marital beliefs and expectations that ought to be ironed out prior to holy matrimony? Marital beliefs and expectations that sometimes lead to the dissolution of a marriage?

Dear Anonymous

Congrats. Marriage on its own is a risk. Like any other risk you may win or lose, so you have to be at peace with both results. There is a plethora of complexities that befall all marriages. Whether the union survives is mostly dependent on both parties’ efforts to make it work. Nonetheless sometimes divorce is a viable solution especially where trust has irretrievably broken down in the relationship.

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