My partners are the complete opposite of my prayers

DEAR GAONE Please keep my identity anonymous. I am a young lady in my twenties. I come from a Christian background where I have been taught that dating is for marriage (and not for fun). I have also been trained that I need to hear from God in order to choose the right partner. With each guy that I dated I believed I had heard God. Nonetheless the partners turned out to be the complete opposite of what I had hoped and I eventually severed the relationships. I am not sure if I know how to hear from God anymore regarding the choice of a life partner anymore. Can you please spell it out for in black and white signs that depict compatibility in a relationship?


Life is generally divided into six areas; emotional, social, financial, intellectual, physical and spiritual. When parties are compatible or almost in all these six areas the relationship stands a greater chance of success even if the parties were to tie the knot. It is worth highlighting that compatibility is not a given that the relationship will flourish, it is a just a predictor that the romance has a higher probability at success. Additionally, regardless of how compatible lovers are in all areas of life, there will always be incompatibilities between them; incompatibilities arising from their own individual uniqueness and gender.

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