True love requires constant course correction and energy input to keep it from crashing. Normally after getting married, couples do not put much effort into the relationship like they had been doing before. They start to take each other for granted and eventually the marriage collapses because of love losing its power. Some of the every day niggles and passion-killers in marriages, according to experts, are weight gain/lack of exercise; lack of romance (sex, treats) money and spend thriftiness; hygiene issues; in-laws/extended family; anti-social bedtime habits; infidelity; family problems; to have a baby or not and financial problems. Experts say that taking love for granted destroys the marriage. The commitment you share is not enough to keep your marriage together. They say couples need to understand how their relationship got where it is now.
Author (c) 2007 Janelle Coulton says in the early days couples tend to make significant efforts, paying more attention to romance and sensitivity to each other's feelings, appearance and fitness. This, she says, partners do to win each other's approval and commitment.
