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Maya Roze | Monday March 3, 2014 16:18

It was not just another bar fight. We were at work. It should not have happened and as if we were ever in the good books with our clients – Kruger had to turn up and give a grand destructive performance.

I would get into the details but that is not the purpose of my blog. The point of this post today is to emphasise the need for artists to humble themselves. To have better control of their emotions and arrogance and always remember that we cannot stop learning, else we cease to exist.

Humility does not mean you let people walk all over you, it means that you have to know your place in certain situations. In addition, a few posts ago I spoke about taking care of ourselves, physically and mentally as well. Stress is not a factor to be undermined given the industry we exist in is filled with alcohol, weed and other weird unnecessary drugs that influence our behavior.

Speaking of external stimuli – relationships! Bafwethu, watching Kruger and his poisonous fiend of a woman in the past few months, I am more than glad I am single - and I mean super glad. I am happy there is no one in my life whining about how I am not including them in my work. Rightly so because it is my work. It is not a hobby where I hang out with people I like besides my partner and do things I like. No! It is work. Imagine in a marriage scenario – the wife asks in general about work but she does not have a right to know in detail about what is going on. Yes, she is paranoid about the sexy secretary – but she has no right to confront, warn, threaten or attack her husband’s female workmate because of her sickly insecurity. It is just plain tacky.

Ladies, if you are dating an artist of any sort and unless you are the manager or workmate – stay the Kruger out of it. Simple. Work is work. Relationships are relationships. I never used to get it and now I would like to take this moment to apologise to all my exes for being the snoopy, tacky mentally unstable Chucky’s wife of a girlfriend. It was not fair that I put you in the middle and had the audacity to give you ultimatums.

It is different for guys to a certain extent. You see artists are vulnerable and highly emotional beings. Especially instrumentalists and vocalists – we tend to believe there is a common factor that pulls us together but there isn’t. We are just horny kids driven by passion to be unreasonable and give it up to the next cute singing dude. So men, be very afraid. If you do not support her, go to every gig she has then someone else will. Do not get it twisted. We are artists, but we are human and have needs. We crave attention and being adored.

I am not saying that dating an artist or an art practitioner of some sort is not worth it. I am saying, we need to grow up so we avoid more visits from Kruger and his crew. You see he doesn’t visit in physical form – it moves like those demons TB Joshua is always tryna slap outta peoples heads. So be mindful of the relationships you form. Learn to draw the line between business and pleasure. Keep your stuff under wraps if you playing naughty and no trouble will come to you. If you have to write down your own personal mission statement. If you have to pray about it. If you have to change the company you keep – dump her or him because they embarrass you. Do it, rather than waste your energy feeling pity for someone. There is someone out there for you and I dare you not to lose faith in that person. Simple.

Grow up. It is not time for you to kid around. LIVE, FREE AND GROW NURTURED ARTS!