No act of sacrifice qualifies normalcy

Kealeboga Ngwigwa | Tuesday June 16, 2026 11:02

Infatuated we become and everything they do excites us simply because those on our past have not made us feel such special and significant. These people extend themselves to us in an amazing fashion and lose a bit or part of themselves for the sake of seeing us so cherished. They lose their pride and a sense of ego, reduce themselves to become vulnerable for us. You cannot express love without being vulnerable. You yield your entire being to trust someone with your precious heart, thinking that they are capable of protecting and nurturing it. Their efforts, time and resources become precious for a limited time until one feels that what they do is a norm. We become acquainted with their actions until a sense of entitlement creeps in. When she arrives home, she cooks for me, do the dishes and I just sit and watch a soccer game on the television set. He comes all the time with a plastic full of groceries without me asking and he makes sure that my living expenses are well taken care of.

My teacher makes sure that whoever is struggling with a certain subject remains beyond her or his knock- off time for us to fully grasp the subjects and pass in our examinations. After some time, all these gracious actions become too common that they do not shock us when they happen. Some people even have the audacity to pray to God and seek an apology before they commit a sin simply due to being used to the fact that God forgives. We are very terrible people, aren’t we? We do not acknowledge that each day and actions are brought by grace and that is something too peculiar to ignore. Who said you have a right to live and experience what other do whole heartily for you? What is it that you have done to truly deserve such gestures? Nothing. You are living due to mercy and grace, and without them, you do not qualify for any of that. Your mindset is setting you on a failure mode by entertaining your sense of entitlement. Some goe to an extend of believing that because they have a good relationship where the partner out- does himself or herself, it is easy to get another partner like the latter and they start to misbehave and disrespect the other. I am beautiful or handsome, I can get whoever I want.

Oh! That is a shame and a backward thinking attitude. Characters will never be the same nor the priorities. Washing dishes may be an insult to whoever you think you are worth dating. Once you leave the person who was right to you, you will embark on a journey to look for the same feeling the latter gave you and that means so many body counts because no one is like anyone. There will always be a void in you that even substances like drugs or alcohol cannot fill. I am so sorry, that is a highway to destruction. Some people we have befriended will lash you with jealousy advises since they desire what you have going on until you destroy your own future. It is until we stay flabbergasted as and when our partners or relationships do something, no matter how long they do it. Appreciating the fact that we did not deserve a moment in which they do that gesture. It even inspires them to do more than the much they have been doing since they feel seen and prized.

We must always tell them with so much gratitude because they are impacting our livelihoods positively, whether we are realising it or not. Nothing should ever reach a point of normalcy so that the relationship is enhanced to be strong and healthy as ever. What you disregard, another man will highly regard. *Kealeboga Ronald Ngwigwa is an Author, Columnist, Trainer, Radio Feature Presenter, Motivational Speaker, and an Entrepreneur. He believes that beauty awaits to be born of anyone, despite our shortfalls. Call him on +26771830584 +26772522213 to enquire about his services, or email: krcoloringsouls@gmail.com