Not everyone is a friend, guard yourself cautiously

Kealeboga Ngwigwa | Wednesday May 20, 2026 06:00

You do not have to be disrespectful to have enemies. No matter how humble you may be less headed about what you do or what you might have achieved. Some would say it is because the grace you carry fumes elements of intimidation and out- classes those who are surrounding you. People tend to wonder why things are going all for others but not themselves. Instead of them trying to learn how the prosperous individual does their things but rather they build a fence around themselves due to our pride and ego that they prioritise.

Within that fence, harbours negative ambience and it truly contaminate the soul. Evil thoughts start to jar in their minds and they want to devise plans of toppling the prosperous one and bring shame to their name. We do not want to uplift those who are doing well for themselves.

Jealous is the main driver of every wicked actions. We are somehow self- reduced when we compare our lives with those of others. I went to the same school and attended the same class with her, but why is she moving swiftly in her life? The one question that depresses oneself and pin them into a mental breakdown.

We tend to take our focus off the positivity and dwell in all things negative. It does not mean you know someone because you grew up with them and you cannot potential dictate their state of life. Most of these enemies would act as if they celebrate your successes but only to render crocodile smiles and could potentially poison the successful one to terminate that glorious livelihoods.

So called friends are commonly accused with deaths of so many they deemed to be their friends yet they are the enemy. Envy is a dreadful emotion that is intertwined with jealousy. Your enemies would so wish the life you are living could have been theirs. Simply trade places!

They feel that you are not worthy of such a life but only them are so deserving. Their low self- esteem drives them to be filled with so much anger and when the prosperous being is praised, it becomes a bitter pill for them to swallow.

Friends who always want something from you, especially clothes that you rock on. They seek any possession you have even the most silly things like a lip stick, things that are hygiene oriented. When you embark on a journey towards greatness, you must be mindful that not everyone is going to celebrate you but rather you will accumulate as much enemies as your friends.

Friends are easily converted to enemies since they experience you at the first glance. Remember that, you will turn into a prototype your enemies will gauge themselves against. It is unfortunate that envy is the only thing left that ties you to them. Some attempt to destroy you as if your success will be transferred to them. What a shame!

Dear reader, do not stop to make yourself better in all ways possible but be mindful of who you open up to, sharing your aspirations with because we totally do not know how they feel, deep down their hearts, about you.

Friends have snatched partners from friend’s loving arms. All of a sudden, the girl who despised your lover is currently the lover of the discouraging friend. Beware of the comments they make and do not be fooled by the activities you have once engaged on together previously.

The moment you realise the bad air from those around you, you must be cognizant that you are doing something way too peculiar and do not stop no matter the ill advises they may dish out. Stay in your lane, be deaf and keep pressing on.

You cannot change anybody’s heart but only yours and do not sacrifice yourself over any person’s opinion. Friends are everything close to danger and suffering can harden their hearts. *Kealeboga Ronald Ngwigwa is an Author, Columnist, Trainer, Radio Feature Presenter, Motivational Speaker, and an Entrepreneur. He believes that beauty awaits to be born of anyone, despite our shortfalls. Call him on +26771830584 +26772522213 to enquire about his services, or email: krcoloringsouls@gmail.com