A time for celebration musn't become a time for fear

The Monitor Editor | Wednesday November 26, 2025 06:00

In one incident, a young woman awoke in a guesthouse with no memory of how she got there, feeling 'violated' by a man she called a friend. In another case, a 22-year-old was brutally raped whilst walking home with friends in the early hours. And, most heartbreakingly, a 16-year-old girl is at the centre of a defilement case after failing to return home.

As we approach the festive season, a time meant for joy and community, these stories serve as a stark and sobering reminder. We must all, collectively and individually, commit to greater care and responsibility to ensure everyone's safety.

Firstly, to every man and woman socialising this holiday, please be vigilant. The connection between alcohol and dangerous situations is undeniable, as the first case tragically illustrates. Whilst consuming alcohol is a personal choice, it can impair judgement and memory, leaving one vulnerable. We urge everyone to watch their drinks, stay in groups, and have a solid plan for getting home safely. Look out for your friends and never leave anyone behind in a compromised state. True friendship means ensuring everyone gets home safely, not taking advantage of someone’s weakness.

To men specifically, we echo Police Superintendent Mbiganyi Letsholathebe’s clear message: respect women’s rights and freedoms. A woman is allowed to walk freely, socialise, and wear what she wants without it being an invitation for harassment or violence. There is never an excuse. It is the actions of the perpetrator, not the behaviour of the victim, that is to blame for these crimes. We call on all men to be part of the solution, challenge disrespectful talk amongst peers, and intervene safely if you see a situation escalating.

Finally, a special plea to parents and guardians. The case of the 16-year-old girl is a chilling warning. The festive period can bring looser routines and greater opportunities for exploitation. Know where your children are, who they are with, and engage them in open conversations about relationships and consent. Please care for your girl-children with increased vigilance during this period. Ensure they know they can come to you with anything.

This festive season, let our collective resolution be one of respect, care, and accountability. By watching out for one another, we can work towards a holiday where celebration, not fear, is the headline.