Of Femicide Suicide & Men

In the last article we talked about femicide suicide (popularly known as passion killings in Botswana) and why women cheat on their partners.

This edition would touch on some of the reasons why men commit femicide suicide. According to the theory of male proprietariness, men in intimate relationships believe that they own women; such men are of the view that no other man must ever date/marry their partners except themselves. They also believe that their female partners ought to stay in relationships with them as long as males so wish.

Because of the patriarchal system men feel entitled to dominate women in love relationships resulting in unequal power in the relationship. Proponents of the male proprietariness theory argue that femicide suicide is a result of males treating females as their property and therefore feeling like failures when females decide to exit the relationship. On the other hand opponents of the male proprietariness theory proffer that men do not just kill their partners out of the notion that women are their property. Some commit femicide suicide because of the fear of rejection, stress, economic factors e.t.c One of our fundamental needs as human beings is love; it is therefore no thunderbolt that we sometimes fear being rejected by the people we so dearly love. At some point in our lives we may feel rejected when; we are passed over for promotion at work, a lover dumps us, friends or business partners sever ties with us. How we handle rejection can either build or destroy us. Occasionally, femicide suicide is an indicator of the fear of rejection handled destructively. The fear of rejection may stem from hopelessness. When parties have been dating or married more especially for a lengthy period and the female partner decides to call it quits without a meeting of the minds, the man may be encircled in gloom and doom. Countless thoughts as to how the future would be agonising and dull without their beloved may flood their mind. Studies show that males tend to externalise blame and express moral outrage when going through turbulent times. Conversely females are prone to internalising blame and falling into depression during stormy seasons. Therefore men’s tendency to externalise blame when acutely stressed or livid sometimes leads to them blaming their lady friends for split ups thus committing femicide suicide. In most instances males are more economically sound than females. Consequently, some men gratuitously invest in their girlfriends financially whlist dating. The severance of a relationship by their lover on that account may be deemed as a great financial loss hence some men’s resolve to kill their darlings and themselves. We need a paradigm shift on our relationship views as a society.

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