My partner wants his way all the time

Dear Gaone: Please keep my identity anonymous. I have been in a relationship for three years now. My partner is a great man. He inspires me to be a better person. He understands me. He is romantic. We are compatible and connect at a deeper level. The main problem I have with him is that he does not know how to handle conflict. He wants to have his way all the time. I compromise in most areas of our relationship and do not have a problem with him having his way. However, once in a while I wanna have my way and he does not indulge me. He wants to rule and dominate me. If I decide to go against his advice he overreacts, utters profanities, intimidates me or pouts for prolonged periods. I have begun to feel powerless and worthless in our love. I now grudgingly give in to all of my partner’s demands but I am dying on the inside. Could I be in an abusive relationship? Kindly advise.

Dear Anonymous

Emotional abuse is a type of Gender-Based Violence that is sometimes overlooked. This article therefore seeks to shed more light on emotional abuse. It is worth noting that emotional abuse is also enlisted as a form of domestic violence in Section 2 of the Domestic Violence Act Cap 28; 05. The contents of this article are largely excerpts taken from Paul Moglia’s book on Emotional abuse. For purposes of this piece, I will refer to the abuser occasionally as ‘he’. Nonetheless that does not negate the fact that women are or can be perpetrators of emotional abuse and other types of abuse at times.


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