In these relationships, one of the partners must have enough ‘cheese’ to spoil the other. The right car - or any car - as long as they can move from one point to the other is necessary, but money is the indispensable ingredient.
They must be able to spoil their sweethearts with candle light diners or just take them out, especially to expensive restaurants.
The sugar daddies just want to have the right beauty and a very young woman to assure them that they still have what it takes.
For women, dating a younger man is seen as a definite plus, a confidence booster and reason to stay in shape. Are these relationships true love or are people using each other to pursue their own interests?
“My girl, these relationships are not about love. They are just about money, material things and sex. These older women have said that their age mates do not sexually satisfy them. That is why they pounce on young boys and entice them with money,” said 35-year-old Tracey Moroka.
She asserted that the young men usually stick where there is money or anything that holds them back in the relationship. She explained that another contributing factor is that older men have not spared young girls.
Portia Motsumi (48) shared the same sentiments. “Older men do not have time for older women, they only have time for the young girls. So the young boys do not stand any chance with their age mates who are most of the time after money and material things.
“They end up filling the missing void with the older women. Sometimes it develops into love but most of the time, there is no love. It is just sex and money,” she said.
Another woman, Boipuso Ludick, said that the boys now say they cannot waste time with their age mates who want to be spoiled while they can find women who are willing to spoil them.
Most of the men who spoke to Monitor agreed that there is no love in relationships with sugar mummies and sugar daddies. The young just want assistance from the other partner who is established in life. Most of them said that it is only a few cases where the love is genuine.
“The love might be there when the relationship starts but in most cases, it is not genuine. It is faked love,” said one adult male who preferred not to be named.
Another man, Jeff Kgomotso, said that nowadays people are looking at the high cost of living and therefore want partners who are ready to assist them.
“These young men usually focus on the cost of living and stay with women that have money to assist them with paying expenses, even if it means dating someone old enough to be their mothers,” he says.
He confirmed that he once dated an older woman when he was doing his national service and she assisted him on many occasions without complaining.
“On many occasions, young men ignore advice from their families and friends,” he says.
